Six Paradigms of Human Interaction

Mindsets

Win/Lose

"I win, you lose"
Competitive
Authoritarian

🔄 Good when:
Not interdependent with competitor
No relationship, no need to cooperate

Lose/Win

"I lose, you win"
No expectations
Giving up
Buried feelings

🔄 Good when:
When issue is not that important
Isn't worth the time/effort, relationship is more important
Compromise, low form of Win/Win

Lose/Lose

Adversarial
Vengeance driven, get even
Blinded by desire for enemy to lose

Win

Just want to win, doesn't care if others win or lose
No sense of competition
Only caring for yourself

Win/Win

✅ Good
Mutually beneficial
Cooperative, not competitive

Win/Win or No Deal

✅ Best
If Win/Win is not possible, disagree agreeably
Rather than doing something at the expense of others, do something else
Provides freedom: you don't have to drive for what you want by pushing/manipulating